How To Do Something You’ve Never Done Before

Have you ever felt the urge to try something that you’ve never done before?

Maybe you’ve never skateboarded a meter in your life, but you want to try it so bad. Or maybe you’ve never held a guitar or any instrument before, never written a line of poetry either, but an itch starts to grow, an itch to write songs because there are things you’ve seen God do that you want to proclaim. Or maybe coding is starting to sound really appealing, but you don’t have a background in HTML or even computer science. Or maybe you want to garden and grow stuff but you don’t know the first thing about green things.

It’s not something you want to make a living off of, but it’s something you desire to do, something you want to try, if only for a little while.

Does it feel hard? Does it feel like you’re too old to start something like that, like if you wanted to get into storytelling, you should have done it when you were seven, and since you’re thirty-seven or seventy-seven, you’ve missed the window of opportunity?

Does it feel like you’re foolish for wanting to break out of your current skill set? Are you worried that people would wrinkle their noses at you and ask, “Why do you want to do that? You’ve never done anything like that before.”

So instead of feeling excited, you feel almost guilty for wanting more, for wanting to do something different, something new.

This, my friend, is for you.

how to do something youve never done before

So how do you do something that you’ve never done before?

How do you write songs when you’ve never played with poetry a day in your life?

How do you start writing stories when your creativity has looked vastly different all your life?

How do you start painting when you know nothing about color theory or what the different brushes are for?

How do you start a daily comic when your drawing skills haven’t been cultivated since kindergarten?

How do you do anything you’ve never done before?

Just start doing it.

Start by just doing it, even if you feel like you’ve got no idea what you’re doing, because honestly, even if you keep this up for ten more years, you’ll probably still feel like you’ve got no idea what you’re doing (feeling like I have no idea what I’m doing is the plane of existence that I live on, friends).

So start by actually starting. Do it right now or put it on the calendar for some time in the next week that you will start and do whatever it is for at least twenty minutes. Even if you don’t know where to start, you can still start (trust me, I know).

When you’re able to, read blog posts about it, watch YouTube tutorials about it, talk to people you know have experience in it, maybe take a class, and keep starting.

Keep starting.

In the beginning, put it in your to-do list one to three times a week for twenty minute increments as a starting point.

That consistency, that repeated stomping fear in the throat, and simply doing it strengthens your muscles (these are metaphorical muscles, unless the thing you’re starting is some sort of workout insanity; then it will actually strengthen your literal muscles).

Don’t overthink it.

Just don’t. You don’t have to make a big deal out of it. You can tell people if you want. You don’t have to, though.

One day, this thing that you’re starting today may be a big deal, something hugely integral in your life. But for now, for today, it’s a seed, a spark, an inkling. Let it be a little thing. Don’t overthink it.

Don’t expect too much of yourself.

This sounds bad, but it isn’t. Have realistic expectations. Don’t put the expectation on yourself that you have to be great at it right out of the gate.

Build a dam against perfectionism starting right now.

Don’t feel like you have to share it.

I am a huge believer in sharing our gifts. But I also think there’s special beauty and freedom, especially in the beginning of something, for it to be private, shared with God only or maybe a select few.

If you want to share it, share it! But if this little adventure only ever stays between you and God, that’s okay too. It doesn’t have to tangibly affect something or someone; there are many seemingly intangible and unquantifiable “results” that it brings out in you that are more than enough to make it worthwhile.

Also, privacy, especially in the beginning, frees you up to have a lot more fun without other people’s expectations (along with your own) breathing down your neck.

Have fun.

Seriously. Have. some. fun.

Have some fun! Unharness yourself from expectation and enjoy creating or skateboarding or doing whatever it is you’re doing.

It is okay to do things just for the fun of it. I’ll say it again: it is okay to do things just for the fun of it. The fun of it can glorify God.

Practice and persevere before giving up.

Don’t do something once and decide you’re awful at it. Practice. Keep starting for six months before you give up.

I say six months because it is enough time for your skills to sharpen drastically, but it’s also enough time for you to cycle through the various imposter syndromes, hating it, loving it, honeymooning with it, etc.

By the end of those six months, if you hate it or even are just meh, feel free to throw in the towel. Don’t ever think that just because you start something you have to do it for the rest of your life. Maybe you will. Maybe you won’t.

Seek God.

Honestly, do this the entire time, but I put it near the end because I don’t want you to get the impression that seeking God for this is going to involve praying and fasting and a moment of clarity and weeping when you think you’ve got the green light from him. I put it at the end because I don’t want you to overthink this (think about it, but don’t overthink about it [have fun finding that balance {also, notice how overthinking is a theme}]).

Just keep talking to God about it. He knows the interest in this thing has been stirring in you (it could be that he’s been the one stirring it up) but tell him anyway. Confess to him why you’re scared to start and all the things you’re overthinking about it (because you’re probably overthinking about it).

Then, submit it to him. Submit your desires to God.

Then, test it. AKA: start!

Again, at this point, this new thing isn’t a big deal, so don’t overthink it. Just start and see what God does.

Just because you started and stopped something now doesn’t mean you’ll never start it again.

If it “flops” now (aka: you’re not loving it, and it becomes clear that this isn’t the time for this adventure), just know that you don’t have to feel foolish or sheepish if six months or six years or six decades down the road you want to try again.

Honestly, when it’s the right time, the right season of life, when this new thing will accomplish the most good (remember, good doesn’t have to be tangible or concrete), then God will make sure you don’t drop it. Seriously, he won’t let you drop it until it’s the best for you and most glorifying for him for you to do so. Or maybe it’ll be best and most glorifying for you to never drop it. *shrug* I guess you’ll just have to find out.

There you have it.

Now you know how to do something you’ve never done before. While writing this post, I had mostly artsy/creative things in my head, but I think this advice goes for most things—running, mountain climbing, carpentry, steel fabrication, surfing, scrapbooking, etc.

What is something new you’ve wanted to try for a while but haven’t? Why not?

With love,

Rosalie

p.s. – Olive Tree (you know who you are), this post is for you, precious one. Go write that music.

p.p.s. – I feel like I said “honestly” and “just” way too much in this post, but I don’t even care because this post was definitely a we’re-sitting-across-from-each-other-at-a-coffee-shop-and-I’m-going-to-encourage-you-to-try-the-thing type of post (aka: remarkably informal, lacking only gifs).

How to Deal with Rejection [tips on handling it in a healthy way]

So you’ve labored over a story, be it a six hundred page novel or a six hundred word flash fiction.

Hours upon hours (upon hours) of thinking and revising and thinking and editing and more thinking have been poured into this story. It’s been critiqued and fiddled with, and you’ve gone through all the phases of loving it, hating it, not quite hating it as much, almost liking it, hating it again, actually liking it, and you’ve at last come to terms with the story.

It’s never going to be perfect, but my goodness, it almost is. And my goodness it better be almost perfect after all that. You might even say you’re happy with it.

Off it goes to The Publisher (or the agent or the magazine or the website).

After days and weeks of angsty waiting, an email pops into your inbox. From The Publisher (or agent or magazine or website).

Your heart seizes in your chest and your hands go clammy. You take a fortifying breath and open the email.

“Unfortunately, we are unable to acquire your story…”

Your little heart crunches like a tin can, and the wind whooshes out of your sails, (probably for forever, you think to yourself).

All that, and your story’s been rejected.

I’ve been there, done that, and it’s never fun. In the last year, I have submitted nine different pieces for publication, and seven of those nine have been rejected. Today we’re going to get into how it can be a little less awful; we’re going to talk about dealing with rejection in a healthy way (and yes, there is a playlist in here somewhere).

how to deal with rejection.jpg

Recalibrate your view of rejection.

So often we view rejection as a bad thing, which is our natural instinct when something is painful, but rejection actually isn’t a bad thing. I promise (and I’m quite serious and quite sane).

Rejection is not failure. Rejection does not mean your story wasn’t good. Maybe it was. Maybe it wasn’t. But rejection does not mean you’re a no-good writer and you don’t know what you’re doing. Maybe you are and maybe you don’t. But not necessarily.

Just to be clear: rejection does not equal bad. Pain does not equal bad. Frustration and disappoint do not equal bad.

Rejection is actually very, very good for you (and me, especially me).

  • Rejection grows you as a person and as a writer. If you’ve been around Penprints for any length of time, you know that I am a firm believer in anything compels personal growth. Suffering through rejection can help you mature far more than publication.
  • Rejection thickens your skin. All art is painfully subjective, and thus there will always be differing opinions about your story. Hypersensitivity to anything resembling criticism reveals a shallowness of character. But rejection, which isn’t outright criticism but can feel like it, can deepen and grow you so that you don’t take things personally (because when people take things personally, they become angry, bitter, and they lash out).
  • Rejection teaches you humility. Nothing helps you maintain a realistic view of your writing skills as much as rejection. Humility isn’t having a low view of yourself; humility is having a realistic view of yourself. It’s so easy to forget how much we all still have to learn about writing, and sometimes we start to think we deserve it. We deserve publication. We deserve to sign with an agent. We’ve worked hard. We’ve put in the hours. By this time, for sure, we deserve. Rejection is a reminder that, no, you and I won’t get just even if we might “deserve” it. No matter how fast we’re rising in the industry, we are not entitled to anything.
  • Rejection means that God has a better home for your story. Now, better does not mean bigger. Better means better, be it the drawer of your desk for you to revisit and enjoy alone (an art that is quickly being lost in a world that wants everything experienced together) or the little publishing house you meet at your next writer’s conference or a really huge home ten or twenty years down the road.

heart banner mini 1

Reckon on rejection.

Your stories will get rejected. That’s just the way this industry goes, the way life goes. Don’t fall into the mindset of thinking you’re the exception to the rule what, no, I’ve never done that I don’t know what you’re talking about.

Expect rejection. Anticipate it. This isn’t to psych yourself out but to set yourself up for a shorter fall if/when your stories get rejected. If you submit something with the mindset that it could get published but is more likely to be rejected, you’re just being realistic.

heart banner mini 1

Return to why you write.

When the rejection is smarting, take some time to remember why you tell stories in the first place.

(Note: If your deepest motivation is publication, well, that’s not going to be much help. Publication is a great goal and dream to work toward, but it isn’t big enough. It won’t help you much in the long run; it isn’t rich enough fuel. Dream bigger, want bigger, and write bigger for bigger, better reasons, and remember those reasons.)

If your deepest motivation is to tell a good story, you can do that and still have your story rejected. But it doesn’t burn as badly because if you wrote a good story, you accomplished your goal.

If your deepest motivation is to have fun, you can do that and still have your story rejected. But it doesn’t burn as badly because if you had fun with the story, you accomplished your goal.

If your deepest motivation is to glorify God, you can do that and still have your story rejected. But it doesn’t burn as badly because if your story magnifies God in some way—be it in the excellence, themes, or characters—then you accomplished your goal.

So return to why you want to tell stories when the rejection email is sending your excitement and contentment up in flames. If you did what you set out to do, that’s enough.

So what the story isn’t published (yet!)?

heart banner mini 1

Final thoughts

  • It’s okay to be disappointed and disheartened. It’s okay to cry. You need to process.
  • Remember that your worth and your identity are not bound up in your writing—published or not. Your value and identity are in Jesus and Jesus alone.
  • Process your disappointment, but don’t wallow in it.
  • I listen to this little playlist when I submit stories and articles, and then I listen to it again after I get a rejection or acquisition notice. It’s about true wealth and worth and all that jazz.

Dealing with rejection in a healthy way begins long before you submit your story. It begins in the mindsets and habits you intentionally develop as you go along your little writer way.

heart banner mini 1

That’s all I’ve got for today!

What have been some ways you’ve dealt with rejection? I’m always looking for more tips since I get rejected most of the time, haha. Are there any stories/articles you’re prepping to submit somewhere? If so, tell me about them! If not, you should definitely give it a try!

With love,

Rosalie

Follow my blog with Bloglovin

Just B. Jordan on Writing Flash Fiction

In 2015, I met Just B. Jordan at Realm Makers, and then in 2017, I fell in love with flash fiction (short stories 1000 words or less). And it turns out that Just B. Jordan is no stranger to brief fiction. In 2016, she published her first story with Splickety Publishing Group, and then in 2017, she sold three more stories to Splickety as well as shared a few flash fics on her blog.

SO. Just B. Jordan has graciously agreed to share some of her flash fiction wisdom with us today, and at the end of the post, be sure to enter the giveaway to win print copies of all four magazines that feature her stories.

Without further adieu, here are her thoughts.


on writing flash fiction.jpg

The Post.

When you speak to writers about flash fiction the most common response you hear is “I’d like to write a story in that form, but I can never make anything that short!”

I was an extremist in this group; I didn’t think I could write a story under 100,000 words. It was impossible until I changed the way I thought about short stories.

one thing.jpgThey aren’t exactly like novels, which are about the growth of a world and its characters. Flash fiction is about one thing, whether it’s a moment, a suggestion, a question, or a change. Something brief, but potent, that could be written in any number of ways. As a scene, an accumulation of different moments, a recollection—any structure that fits the tale you want to tell.

Learning the craft of flash means learning how to cut every word you possibly can. You have to be concise and advance the plot quickly. The story must be reduced to its essence, but remain vivid. For someone who tends to write long (yes, that’s me) it’s an invaluable lesson, and well worth the effort.

The restriction of words feels confining at first, but there’s a freedom to flash fiction. Embrace that it doesn’t have to be perfectly complete. It only has to be complete enough to resonate.

One way to resonate is to leave an imprint made by a question left unanswered, the reader feeling an emotion, or even something as simple as an image that’s strong enough to last in the mind’s eye.

Crafting a strong image is not only a good writing exercise, but it can be a powerful devise that makes your story memorable. Once a story’s written, find the moment that could become an “imprint” image. Shape this moment into one line, and work over the language of that line until the wording is unique, until it feels alive. Then you’ve created an image that will stay in your memory forever. (An image I will never forget is a line as short as “the howl of a songbird on a string”)

Every reader might find that a different line, image, or emotion remains with them from a story, and it could be one the writer didn’t purposefully craft. But that reflects the beauty of flash fiction; it has a form, but some stories are just abstract enough that it means something different to each reader.

Even so, coloring words and images shouldn’t cross the line into being too poetic. Flowered prose has its place, but a story still needs to advance. Description should be used as a gear, not the whole vehicle.

Everyone has their own writing style. And everyone has a different way of developing their story. I find it easiest to start with finding an idea I love. I let the story grow until I see the moment in time where the biggest change happens for the characters. That moment becomes the only scene I write. It begins just before, or just as, the “big change” occurs, and it ends when the characters are faced with accepting or fighting this change, or shortly after they’ve acted on it.

Write the big moment. Leave the reader with a unique image or a strong feeling. Cut everything that doesn’t advance the story or add emotion.

And when you’re ready to submit your story for publication, do a little research. It’s worth your time, I promise. Read stories published by magazines or ezines you want to submit to. If you find works that are similar to yours, you know that magazine will have a much higher chance of being interested in your work—submit to them!

Then keep writing those big moments. ;)


Jordan 300dpi croppedThe Author.

Just B. Jordan writes high fantasy and sci-fi. She received a contract for her first novel at the age of 18. Her published works include Never to Live and multiple short stories.

Check out her YouTube channel, Twitter, and website (and don’t forget to sign up for her newsletter).


enter to win (1).jpgThe Giveaway!

Be sure to enter to win the print copies of the four magazines that Just B. Jordan has been published in!

There are three different ways to enter, so be sure to get alllllllll the entries you can!

The giveaway ends on 1.20.18, and the winner will be announced in the post script of the January 22, 2018 post from Penprints. :)


SO. What do you think about flash fiction? Have you tried to write it? Have you read it?

With love,

Rosalie

How to Start a Bullet Journal [the award-winning sequel]

After my far too enthusiastic post a couple of weeks ago about my great love for my Bullet Journal, there was a huge outcry amongst my readers (so it was like 3 of you, but that’s basically huge) for a tutorial on how to start a Bullet Journal. Since I love you, my dear readers, so much, I am here to regale you with another Bullet Journal post. Hold onto your hats, kids, because this time I’ll be teaching you The Way of the Bullet Journal. You might want to take notes.

p.s. – Because I am so deep in The Way of the Bullet Journal, I’m not even sure if what I’m going to share makes sense to any brain but my own (not even kidding, kids). Seriously, though, it makes so much sense in my head, but it’s one topic that I struggle to articulate to others. SO, I’m including links to other articles/posts throughout this post in case I’m not making enough sense.

how to start a bullet journal.jpg

~ Part One: What is a Bullet Journal? ~

Technically, it’s “an analog system for the digital age.” Now, I grabbed that definition of the official Bullet Journal site, and full disclosure, I had to look up the definition for analog. It was completely unhelpful. So, those of you who magically understand what an analog system is, yay for you. For the rest of us who are confused, I’ll try to explain it semi-concisely.

The creator of the Bullet Journal, Ryder Carrol, puts it this way: “It’s an analog system designed to track the past, organize the present, and plan for the future.”

A Bullet Journal is a completely customizable medley of organization, planning, lists, and sometimes art.

You can make a list of goals for the year in your Bullet Journal. You can also plan your day out in your Bullet Journal. You can track your spending in your Bullet Journal. You can keep a diary in your Bullet Journal. You can put doodles and sketches in your Bullet Journal. You can track your habits in your Bullet Journal. Basically, a Bullet Journal is all things to all people; it can be whatever you need it to be. Planner. Diary. Sketchbook.

The heart of Bullet Journaling is recording information and planning all sorts of things with speed and readability. This where the use of bullet points comes in. In a Bullet Journal, as much information as possible is conveyed through bullet points.

Boho Berry has a far more excellent explanation of a Bullet Journal in this post.

~ Part Two: Supplies ~

Yes, you need some supplies for your Bullet Journal.

  • Notebook (this one’s a major shocker)
  • One black-ink pen
  • Ruler (optional)
  • A pack of multicolor pens/colored pencils/fine-tipped markers (optional)

When it comes to picking out the right notebook for your Bullet Journal, there a couple things to keep in mind. There are “actual” Bullet Journals that you can buy off of the official Bullet Journal site, but you don’t need an “actual” Bullet Journal. If you want to hop over and buy one off of there, that’s fine, but if you’re looking for something that has a bit more of your personal flare, you’ll want to check out your local office supplies store (aka: the closest thing to heaven on earth).

Consider if you want lines, dots, grids, or blank pages. A lot of people seem to favor dotted grids for their Bullet Journals since it’s more distraction free than the lines or full grids but has a bit more structure to build off of than a completely blank page. But, dots, grids, and full blank pages are hard to come by in notebooks these days. So, you can just be like me and grab a notebook full of traditional lines and work with them or ignore them.

I mention the ruler just because you will likely need to draw lines of some kind at some point in your Bullet Journaling career, and a ruler makes sure that things don’t get wavy.

Also, the multicolor pens, etc.. are mentioned because a lot people like to add a lot of color and life and doodles to their Bullet Journals, but you don’t need them to keep a Bullet Journal.

Also, when it comes to size, you want something small enough to shove in your purse/backpack/briefcase fairly easily, and so keep it on the petite-medium side of things.

~ Part Three: The Elements of the Bullet Journal ~

NOTE: Before we move into this next part, one thing needs to be clear. Originally, the Bullet Journal was designed for planning and orginization, but a whole sub-culture has developed that fuses art with their planning. So, some Bullet Journals are minimalistic while others are dressed to the nines. You decide how you want your Bullet Journal to look. I just wanted to give you fair warning before you search “Bullet Journal” and are demolished by the pages and pages and pages of wildly intricate and decorated Bullet Journals. As you’ll see from some of the pics I’m including in this post, people do all sorts of crazy things in their Bullet Journals.

There are some key elements that make a Bullet Journal a Bullet Journal, that lend themselves so intrinsically to all that a Bullet Journal is that without them it wouldn’t function nearly so well. We’re about to dive into Deep Bullet Journal Lingo.

  • an index
  • the future log
  • collections

The Index.

You’ll want to set aside the first 2-3 pages of your Bullet Journal for your index. Your index is your table of contents. Anything important that goes into the Bullet Journal gets logged in the index with it’s page number so that you can find it more efficiently in the future.

photo credit: thelazygeniuscollective.com

The Future Log.

The future log is usually put in the couple of pages that follow the index. Now, people have all sorts of varying ideas about what a future log is/should look like. Some say that it’s used for a year-at-a-glance, others say that if something is coming up, you just put it in the future log and that’s that (e.g. – “Hey, Mable. Lucy’s throwing her husband a birthday party on the 12th. Wanna come and bring a salad?” You would put something like this in your future log: June 12 – Lucy’s hubby bday party; bring salad).

So there’s this kind of future log:

photo credit: thelazygeniuscollective.com

And then there’s a more decorative of future log:

Image result for bullet journal future log

photo found somewhere in the depths of Pinterest

And there’s also this kind of future log:

Image result for bullet journal future log

photo credit: unknown

Since there are lots of ways to approach a future log, do a Google search for images and scroll through all the pictures until you come across a version that strikes your fancy.

Collections.

Collections make my heart happy. Collections are your lists of things. Books to read = a collection. Gratitude log = a collection. Weight tracker = a collection. Collections are one-two page lists of related things. (I keep all my collections in the back of my Bullet Journal so that they are easiest to get to.)

I have a collection of flash fiction ideas. I have a collection of all the birthdays of people I love. I have a collection of people who I want to endorse my novel when (if) it gets published.

When it comes to collections, the possibilities are quite nearly endless.

Here’s a collection of place this person/business has traveled to:

Image result for bullet journal collections

photo credit: unknown

Here’s collection of things a person is waiting to happen/receive:

Image result for bullet journal collections

pc: boho berry

This person got very elaborate with her collection for books to read:

Image result for bullet journal collections

pc: unkown

The next three Bullet Journal terms are directly related to the planning aspect. We’ve got:

  • monthly spreads (aka: monthly logs)
  • weekly spreads
  • daily spreads (aka: daily logs)

Monthly spreads are usually at the beginning of each month in your Bullet Journal and usually include: monthly goals, monthly tasks, and a calendar of the month. Monthly spreads are perfect overviews for each month, basically mini-future logs.

Weekly spreads are at the beginning of each week. Here’s where you have your weekly tasks list and week-at-a-glance. You write up your to-dos and events for the week in the list and then plug them into specific days in the week-at-a-glance (this makes so much sense in my head, and so I hope it makes sense to you guys too).

Daily spreads are where you plan your day and record anything eventful. You can simply go with a to-do and event list, or you can plug all the stuff for your day into a schedule. The Bullet Journal is completely customizable, so just go with whatever works best for you.

Here’s an example of a very involved daily spread:

Image result for bullet journal daily spread

photo credit: unknown

Here’s a less specific but very decorated daily spread:

Image result for bullet journal daily spread

photo found in the depths of Pinterest

~ Part Four: Further Reading ~

Okay, here is where I give you alllllllll the helpful articles and videos that have helped me as I navigated The Way of the Bullet Journal. I’ve only scratched the surface, really, but instead of regaling you with a whole series of my own posts that don’t exactly make much sense, I’ve decided just to send you out to the best places to get more information.

Places to search #bulletjournal for visual inspiration:

  • Youtube
  • Pinterest
  • Instagram

Specific links:

Check out Boho Berry’s series she did on Bullet Journaling. Her posts are full of very visually appealing photos that are well-suited for those who want to add art and doodles to their Bullet Journals.

Here’s a video from Ryder Carrol (the creator of Bullet Journaling) that captures the keys of Bullet Journaling.

This is an excellent post on Bullet Journaling that goes into signifiers, migration, and threading.

Another good one for the artsy people out there is this post from Little Coffee Fox.

~ Conclusion ~

If this post did nothing else, I hope that it provided some good places for you to go to get more info on Bullet Journaling. It can be very overwhelming, and so I hope this post broke it down into a few more manageable bites.

Will you be starting a Bullet Journal? Tell me honestly: was this post helpful or just confusing? Will you put art into your Bullet Journal? Should I give you a tour of my Bullet Journal at some point in the near future?

With love,

Rosalie <3

P.S. – a shout-out to my parents who have been married 30 years today!!!!